The Comparison Thief

I am such a fan of Joanna Gaines, from the TV show Fixer Upper. She has a great eye for stunning design and her talent is a great influence in my creativity.  Just seventeen days after I launched my site, Joanna posted on her blog a new series called “Gatherings” where she will share about entertaining and hosting. {oh the odds!} My heart sank to my feet. Here was this famous celebrity creating and delivering {so beautifully might I add } very similar content to what I am working on.

I did not see Joanna’s blog until a couple of days after my gathering.   Yet, I had shared about comparison on our first night.  I reminded the ladies how it can rob you of your hospitality because it does not matter how big or small the gesture to be hospitable is; it all has the ability to make your guests feel worthy and honored. Because at the end of the day, it is always more importantly about people.

After seeing Joanna’s post, I had to repeat those words to myself. Her gathering looked absolutely flawless and chic.  Honestly, I was almost a bit jealous I did not come up with all her ideas. However, I learned something further after checking my own heart…

Comparison will not only rob you of your hospitality, but it will steal your gifts, influence and talents.

Comparing yourself with others with the same gifts as you can make you operate in them incorrectly. Once the motive in your heart changes, so will the outcome and fruit of your actions. In regards to hospitality, this can lead to the temptation to be impressive instead of servant hearted.

Additionally, not everyone has the ability to influence every single person in the world. I personally think this is why there are few new ideas under the sun and we need to start being OK with that.  It is also okay to not be the one who figures out “the next big thing“,  but instead understands where their gifting is and excels in it. There are people who are in your life for a reason, invest in them.  Joanna and I do not share the same relationships, but we have the opportunity to touch the lives of those in ours by the way we serve them; even if that means hosting the same dinner party.  Moreover, be careful not to close yourself off to being on the receiving end of influence. I am positive Joanna has no idea who I am or what I am doing; she is not my enemy. Quite the contrary, how inspiring to have more places to lean in for inspiration and learning.

Finally, if you are busy focusing on what the other person is doing, you will miss out on the opportunity  to take that time to develop your own skills.

“Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life.”  – Galatians 6:4-5 The Message

2 Comments Add yours

  1. Christina says:

    Loooove this!

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Marianne S says:

    So so good! I needed to hear this word!

    Liked by 1 person

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