“I just want someone to do the house work– you know, the cooking, cleaning, laundry– life would be so easy and I would be able to do everything I ‘need’ to do!” …ugg, sigh…
I would be rich if I had a dollar for every time I have had this thought slip into my mind, and even out of my mouth at times. Between the house, small children, family, friends, and following the beautifully crazy dreams the Lord has placed on my heart, it can all feel just a tad bit overwhelming.
The truth is, I found that the issue with this thought is not [just] that my plate is too full, but that this desire [to do it all] is really coming from a place in my heart that says “I need to do it all to prove I am enough.”
Well friends, I don’t want to wish my life away. So I prayed, and I listened. In the stillness, I sensed the Lord whisper…Embrace your season and you will realize you are capable of accomplishing more than you think.
The first thing I see here is perspective. It’s just a season friends! This time will come and go. What lessons are to be learned here? What side of my character is being refined? What memories do I have the opportunity to build? What seeds do I have the chance to sow? I think of my two small boys and pray I never miss a moment to learn, teach, cherish, and be changed. When we gain this new perspective, we also gain the clarity to prioritize the responsibilities in our lives. My sweet friend Marianne Sloan says “You can do it, and you have the time, but you can’t do it all, all the time.” One of the most freeing lessons I have learned is the ability to have a very honest, self heart-check and see what things am I saying “yes” to that really need to be a “no” or a “not right now”. Fear on missing out can feel like a very real thing. Often times we will plunge into the deep end into something we want, yet out of season. And once we are in the middle of it, we realize we are sinking faster than we are swimming. It feels exhausting and we are not bearing much fruit. If you earnestly seek Him, the Lord will not allow you to miss out. Be encouraged that we can surrender the things we want to the Lord, but He will always give us what we need.
“A man’s heart plans his way, But the LORD directs his steps.” – Proverbs 16:9
Acknowledging and embracing our current season leads to prioritizing, which in turn, leads to capacity. I remember thinking there was no way I was going to survive being at home with my children while my husband was at work during the day. I knew I had two options: 1. Drown in complaints and self-pity or 2. Get to it and remind myself I would have to trust the Lord daily. Yes, it’s hard, but it has also been so rewarding. I have found myself having the most genuine and powerful prayer times in the middle of my kitchen, and learning to appreciate God as Abba Father. His grace is where we find our capacity.
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5-6
Tip: Jot down some encouraging verses and put them up in strategic places in your home where you can be reminded to surrender and trust the Lord.